As a coach, do you get sucked into your client’s drama?
I think I need to start by clarifying what I mean by coaches getting sucked into their client’s drama before we go any further.
Whenever you start having strong feelings about the story the client shares in coaching you need to stop and question yourself. In order to be an effective Coach it can be argued that you need to maintain a certain psychological distance while at the same time having empathy and compassion.
When you start feeling strong feelings there is a good chance some of your own “stuff” has been triggered. In Supervision terms, this could be an example of transference and/or countertransference in play.
There is an excellent model in Transactional Analysis that can be used to understand this dynamic.
Over the next few weeks, I will share with you some background theory on this model plus some case studies followed by how you can step back out of the drama. I will also expand to how you can use this same model to help your clients.
Are you interested in knowing more?
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